WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT IN LIFE?

Listen to your heart rather than your heart as your ego can play tricks to mislead you.

Cihangir Gener

Jun 10, 2022

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Hi,

It`s time to enjoy another weekend after a busy work week and I hope my newsletter will make your weekend even better.

Today, we will continue from where we left last week.

WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT IN LIFE?

Step 4 — Ask yourself this powerful question. What would you do NOW if you had INFINITE resources?

Think without limits. Feel limitless as you answer this question.

What would you do right now if you had a magic wand that could help you manifest anything you want?

What type of life would you have now if you had infinite resources?

What would you start, stop, and continue now?

Which obsessions, fears, and anxieties would you leave behind?

Which skills, abilities, and wisdom would you acquire and develop?

What were your dreams when you were a child? What made you forget them? Why did you quit your dreams? Which fears kept you away from realizing your full potential?

What do you want people to tell about you when you die? How do you want your funeral to be?

Which people do you want to be surrounded by?

What will make you die with regret unless you can achieve it?

Make sure you cover all the roles in your life as you ask the questions above. It will enrich this exercise.

The word INFINITE is the key here to block your left-brain sabotage your dreams and creativity. Your left brain works with limits and represents your worldly aspect. The right brain is about intuition and creation, representing your divine aspect.

PLEASE TAKE YOUR TIME AND DO NOT JUMP TO THE NEXT STEP UNTIL YOU HAVE AT LEAST 7 THINGS ON EVERY FOUR BOXES.

The more you write, the better. Avoid running fast. Slow down, and allow your mind and intuition to bring you the answers because you`ve got all the answers within you — you just have to remember it with the right process, tools, and methods.

I assume you have done a great job of journeying into your wonderland, just like how Alice did in that famous children`s novel — Alice In Wonderland. Indeed, that novel is more than a story. It is the story of an inner journey to one`s true self or essence, told by metaphors, allegories, and symbols.

Step — 5 Take a red, blue, and yellow highlighter. Highlight your biggest pains and sufferings in life with red and the moderate ones with yellow. Please note that you do not have to highlight everything on your list. Just try to distinguish the top pains and sufferings in your life. They are the ones you should tackle and resolve immediately.

Pain and suffering are anything that makes you miserable, unhappy, depressed, and hopeless.

ORGANIZING AND MANAGING MULTIPLE CONFLICTING PRIORITIES

Now that you know your priorities in 4 aspects of your life, it is time to prioritize them because you cannot run after too many things simultaneously. In his well-known strategy book, The Art of War, Sun Tzu writes that one of the ways a soldier consumes himself is the inability to master inner resources; that is his energy. Science tells that an average person cannot handle more than 7 things simultaneously, with a sensitivity of 2 less and 2 more. If you want to sabotage someone`s success, give her/him more than 7 tasks simultaneously, and ask for results immediately.
We will use a 2-level prioritization.
Level 1 — I use Eisenhower Matrix as a great tool to prioritize things fast and quick. It helps concentrate on what is urgent and important and schedule your activities accordingly.
Please take a new sheet of paper and draw the Eisenhower Matrix on it.
Since you know by now your top pains and sufferings in 4 main aspects of your life and write them on the matrix.
Anything urgent and important is your top priority. Do you see what you have to tackle right away now?
Level 2 — Then, we will use another matrix to prioritize the urgent and important things. This matrix has EFFORT on one axis and RETURNS on the other.
As we have endless needs and desires, the prioritization process below may end up with a long list. If that is the case, the effort vs. returns matrix will help you. Please take a new sheet of paper and draw the matrix. Write down the top priorities you found below on this matrix.
Anything that will immediately impact your life with little effort is a quick win and will help you make progress and boost your morale. The release of happy hormones (dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, endorphin) will ignite your inner transformation.